When life happens to me, I need Self Restraint.
Self Restraint is the ability to not react emotionally to situations.
When I react irrationally, other people may think that they need to restrain me.
My Self restrains my emotional energy, so that it does not react & drain to a drama.
Self restraint requires the energy of patience to tolerate what is happening to me.
It is driven by the sub-conscious fear of the damage that my emotional reaction may cause.
The restraint or suppression of fear & negative emotion is not healthy.
When life happens by me, I use Self Control.
For life to happen by me, I need to be in control.
Self restraint is reactive, Self control is pro-active.
Self control does not mean being in control of my Self, it is myself being in control of others.
It is driven by the belief that only by controlling others can I be in control myself.
It is not possible for the Self to control its Self.
It is the sub-conscious mind that is either in control or not.
My Soul gives unconditional choice to its Self and therefore never chooses to control its Self.
My Self is free to experience life without restraint and with or without needing to be in control.