I look out for:
- People who I have a duty to look after’
- People who I believe are vulnerable and need care.
- People who rely on me for their emotional power.
- People who follow my authority and need me to make their choices.
- People who depend on me because of their own inability, incapacity or incapability.
- People who meet my emotional needs.
- People who I like and who are like me.
- People who are my own kind, who I choose to treat with kindness.
- Everyone with whom I have developed a co-dependent relationship, including my pets.
‘Looking out for’ is not the same as ‘having a high regard for’, ‘holding in high esteem’ or ‘respecting highly’.
I do not need to ‘look out for’ people who I respect highly, hold in high esteem or have a high regard for, because they are more than capable of looking out for themselves.
When I respect and regard all people equally, I will have no need to look out for anyone.