Pleasing others is conditional on what they give to me.
I please other people because of the emotional power and the authority to choose that they give to me.
I do not please another when there is no personal pleasure for myself.
I do not bother to please other people if they do not please me in some way in return.
Kindliness has no dependency on others and places no conditions on them.
It recognises the Goodness in all others and is not conditional on others being kindly to me.
Kindliness recognises the inherent kindliness in all other people.
It sees the oneness and the unity of all people.
Kindliness knows that what I do unto others, I do unto my Self.
Pleasing is conditional love.
Kindliness is unconditional Love.