Give & Take are often confused with giving & receiving, yet taking and receiving are not the same thing.
Taking is seen as something that is not given willingly.
When both partners are not giving and receiving equally, then one is being greedy and the other is pleasing that greed.
When one partner is taking more than the other is willing to give, then assertiveness and appeasement ensues with one partner asserting their dominance over the other.
Give & take are never in balance.
Giving and receiving are only in balance when what is given is received with gratitude and what is received is given with gratitude.
When give & take are replaced with being accepting and being allowing, the partnership attains equability.
When I am accepting of whatever is given and allowing of whatever is taken, I experience no energy loss and no energy gain. I become charge neutral, in balance and in harmony with my partner.
When my partner is accepting of whatever is given and allowing of whatever is taken, then we are able to share in the true sense of give & take, which is the balanced and equal state of being in equanimity with each other.
When give & take becomes allowing & accepting, there is no superiority, no selfishness, no conflict, no intimidation, nor any inferiority, unselfishness, appeasement or pleasing, just a loving relationship that unconditionally approves of each others actions, what each other has, and who each other is being.
Compassion has truly replaced compromise.