Dementia is allowed because it cannot be disallowed. When I cannot disallow something, I have to accept it; but a have to is a toleration and whatever I am tolerating, I am neither accepting it nor allowing myself to accept it.
Dementia is difficult to accept and in the absence of accepting it, I will have to tolerate it; whether I suffer with it or suffer from someone else having it. I suffer when whatever I am tolerating becomes intolerable. Moving to acceptance overcomes the toleration and overcomes the suffering.
A toleration is a problem and the problem is that I eventually suffer the effects of whatever I am tolerating. I cannot solve the problem of dementia but I can overcome the problem, in the same way that I can overcome any problem in life. I overcome any problem in my life by not seeing it as a problem.
Any problem is a matter of perspective. I cannot change what is happening but I can change how I look at what is occurring. How I perceive what is happening in my life is a matter of my own perspective. When I own my perspective, I can change it at will.
When I see life as happening to me, it is often proved to be a problem. When I see life as happening by me, it is a challenge to ensure that only good things occur. When I allow life to happen through me, I allow opportunities to flow into my life. When I see life as a continuous flow of opportunities, there is no problem and I am not challenged to find any solutions.
When I believe that life is full of problems, it is. When I believe that life is very challenging, it is. When I believe that life is full of opportunities, a life full of opportunities presents itself.
I always have a choice of perspective and that choice of perspective determines my experience of reality. My experience of reality is therefore a matter of my personal choice; which I choose either consciously or sub-consciously, relative to my perspective of life. If I believe that life is full of problems that are always happening to me, then that will be my experience of reality. Although we may believe that our experience causes the way we think, it is really the effect of our deeply held beliefs.
Dementia is the effect of someone who believes that life happens to you and so dementia is something that happens to you. It may initially be seen as a challenge of forgetfulness but with dementia, the challenge is never met and the situation soon becomes an increasing problem with no apparent solution.
Very few people, if any, see dementia as an opportunity. Those who believe that life happens to them, usually believe that they are not allowed to believe otherwise. Being allowed is a matter of authority. When I am allowed, I have authority and when I am not allowed, someone is taking my authority away. The only way that someone can take my authority away is when I allow them to because of my beliefs about authority. When I believe that authority is something that others have over me, I deny my own authority of my choice and defer to the authority of another’s choice.
When I tell myself that I am not allowed, I am just remembering what someone else in my life has told me. Each and every one of us has the total authority of our own choice. It is the choices that I make that determine under whose authority I am running my life.
When I lead an authentic life of my own choice, I choose a life of opportunity and the problem of dementia never arises. When I get dementia, my time has run out for me to make my own authentic choices about what I really want for myself in life.
Whereas nobody in their right mind ever sees dementia as an opportunity, many people are challenged by the onset of dementia but nobody would ever choose dementia to be a challenge, on purpose. There is no purpose to be served by suffering with dementia. Dementia is an apparent lack of purpose, which is one’s doom, not one’s destiny.
In a world of relative choice, suffering with dementia is a choice that is chosen by default. The fault lies in the belief that there are many things that I am not allowed to do. The fault lies in my loss of authority, which causes my loss of emotional power. In my loss of emotional power, I experience a reality of not being empowered to make authorised choices.
As I descend into old age and the belief in my eventual demise, my emotional power declines, my authority decreases and my ability to make conscious choices becomes harder and harder. I can see this as the inevitable consequence of old age or I can see this as something that unluckily, is happening to me.
Either way, it is a consequence of my own experience of life based on my own beliefs about reality and my own inability to create a life of my own choosing. Nobody in their right mind would ever choose to experience dementia but in a world of relative duality, it is allowed.