Being either Attached or Connected is an important distinction within a Coaching Relationship.
When I am attached to a client, it is because they are meeting an emotional need of mine.
It is my emotional need that attaches me to a client.
When a coaching relationship is meeting my emotional needs, it is not empowering and will develop into a co-dependent relationship.
Co-dependent relationships are not developmental.
An attachment is an emotional need.
I am attached to a relationship by my need to have the relationship, whatever that emotional need may be.
When I connect with my client, I harmonise with their energy in a benign and beneficial way.
When the connection is mutually beneficial, it is empathic and compassionate.
When the connection is sympathetic or apathetic, it is negative and mutually detrimental.
When I am disconnected with my client, I am being aloof, insensitive and unemotional.
When I am attached to my client, I am being inclusive, too emotional or irrational.
When I am exclusively-connected to my client, I am being sensitively-detached and emotionally-intelligent in a rational way.
Who I am being in relationship to my client is always my choice and my responsibility.