The Aloof has very weak boundaries and consistently drains emotional energy to other people.
They believe that the only way to avoid the drain on their energy is to withdraw into the solitude of their own ‘cave’.
The over sensitive aloof blames others for their low state of emotional energy and sees the only solution as a tactical withdrawal.
It is in the solitude of their cave that the aloof is able to find the solution to their problem and get their emotional needs met.
They will only emerge from their solitude once they have solved their problems and regained their energy.
With no apparent problems the aloof has no reason to be aloof.
They know that other people’s solutions will never solve their problems even though they believe that other people’s solutions may well have created them.
When the aloof realises that they are not the victim of other people’s problems, they will no longer drain energy to trying to find solutions to other people’s problems and no longer need to be aloof.
The prime examples of an Aloof are a Hen-pecked Husband and a Mummy’s Boy.
Aloofs attract Interrogators who in turn attract Aloofs.