Third Party Coaching doesn’t work.
Coaching is a partnership between two people, not three.
A Coach guides and supports a client to overcome their own problems, not someone else’s.
When the client has an issue involving a third party, the issue is the client’s, not the problem of the third party.
The issue that the client has with a third party is always a problem.
Problem solving an issue with regard to a third party is not a coaching issue.
Resolving a problem with a third party is an advocacy, an arbitration, or a consultancy issue.
Coaching a client to see that any problem that they believe that they have with another is their issue, is the only way forward.
Guiding a client to see that they are the creator of their own problems, not a third party, is the responsibility of the Coach.
Only the person who created the problem can be coached to see an opportunity to resolve it, never a third party.
Unless the client is coached to see that they are the creator of their own problem, the Coach is allowing the client to be the victim of someone else’s issue.
Coaching the client to be a victim is never a good practice.
A third party is never the creator of my problems, I am.
When I blame someone else for creating my problems, I am in denial of whom I am being.